Ive battled back and forth about blogging about this subject for months. And I think Ive come to a point where it needs to be talked about. Females and body image.
As most of you know, I own a vintage clothing boutique in Portsmouth New Hampshire. I see between 30 and 100 women a day come in and out of my shop – I hear their conversations, answer their questions and talk to them about sizing. I also have a social media presence on Facebook and other SM outlets, so I read the comments and answer the same sizing questions there too.
I guess what I want to say without beating around the bush is: Can we stop talking about other womens body sizes? No matter how big or small, no matter if she has a 23″ waist or a 32″ waist, regardless if she has boobs or not. Can we, please – stop?
A day doesnt go by when I dont hear, “Oh my goodness! A 24″ waist!! That girl is so tiny!” – when referring to Lauryn, the lovely (and quite healthy) young woman who models for the shop. And it bothers me to no end when I hear it. Why? What’s wrong with having a 24″ waist? or a 42″ waist? Who cares what her waist size is. Who cares what your waist size is, now or 15 years ago. I often wonder if those same women would say the same thing about that woman with the 42″ waist, out loud and in a public forum. I would imagine not. So why the double standard? Why is it OK to openly remark about the smaller girls size/measurements? Is it because the smaller waist is ideal based on what the media portrays as “ideal”?
Sometimes when women pass through the racks, they say something out loud like, “A 26″ waist!? Who wears that size?!” – I answer with, “Lots of girls.” – once In a while I get a response of, “well those girls arent normal.” And even though I wear a size 12, those comments bother ME because I have friends and customers of all shapes and sizes, even some with 26″ waists.
Im sorry if this is coming off a little venty – but it has really bothered me for quite some time now. And I really want us women to stop fussing over our bodies. Be happy with your body, and if youre not, thats fine – but dont talk about other womens bodies.
So lets just stop it, OK?